A few years back the word vulnerability would have made me turn and run. It wasn’t something I really understood and the little that I did I attached a feeling of inadequacy, loss of strength and a lack of masculinity.
First, let’s talk about what vulnerability is. In definition terms it means ‘willingness to show emotion or to allow one’s weakness to be seen or known; willingness to risk being hurt or attacked’.
Now as men we may look at that and think ‘well there we have it, that’s exactly the reason I don’t open up about the way I feel and that’s exactly the reason I can’t bring myself to be more vulnerable around others.’
Show emotion? No thanks.
Allow someone to see my weaknesses? No thanks.
Risk of being hurt…
You see where I’m going with this.
So, why would you show vulnerability and what are the benefits as a man?
Freedom and relief, strength and courage. They are the benefits.
I remember going backwards and forwards with whether I should create a podcast recently. It was something I wanted to do (massively) however it would require me to have to put myself out there and not really know what would happen.
There are so many amazing podcast creators who have a ton more experience than me and maybe the voice for it and there was a risk that I could create something, be me and possibly make mistakes and I needed to step into vulnerability in order to make that happen.
I have been practicing vulnerability for a while now so after I thought on this for a while it was clear what I wanted to do and needed to do, so I went ahead and created the damn podcast.
As soon as I did I felt a relief, just like all of the other times I had been vulnerable, and now it’s another step in the direction I am wanting to head in and another opportunity for me to grow as a man and in my business.
It reinforces the fact that I am strong, I have courage and I have control in what I want to do and where I am going!
So, men…I’m not saying that you have to open up to everyone and be vulnerable with everything you do. What I’m saying is that it’s something you should do and something that you should at least test out for yourself.
Put yourself out there in a vulnerable way and see what comes from it. The only way to see if something has a positive impact on us is test it right?
“Sometimes we’re tested not to show our weakness but to find our strengths.”